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Happy Valentine’s from a Valentine’s Cynic

I’ve never quite got Valentine’s Day. It wasn’t a huge thing when I was growing up in NZ…

I’ve never quite got Valentine’s Day. It wasn’t a huge thing when I was growing up in NZ – or I don’t remember that it was. I don’t really know – maybe it was popular, but as I was a bit of a late starter on the whole romance thing, I may have missed it. I certainly don’t remember that there was loads of cheap chocolate around in the second half of February, and I’m sure I would’ve remembered that. I was all about the chocolate.


And really, I’m still all about the chocolate. I’m not great at going out anyway, but fighting to get a reservation for an overpriced meal in an overcrowded restaurant, accompanied by an overwrought flower arrangement and an over-sweet card? Not seeing the appeal. And don’t even mention expensive, scratchy lingerie. I will, however, take that half-price chocolate on Feb 15th. Yes. All the chocolate.

These are heading in the right direction for Valentine’s cards.

Look, I’m not an entirely unromantic, Valentine’s Day grinch – actually, wait. No, I am entirely an unromantic Valentine’s Day grinch. I’m not good at romance. I never have been (good thing my preferred genre is very light on it). I am, in fact, terminally unromantic, much to the despair of the SO, who is quite a romantic. He’ll do lovely things like draw a candlelit bath, and I’ll want to turn the lights on so I can read. Or he’ll cook a beautiful dinner, and I’ll eat it on the sofa in my pyjamas. Or he’ll have a gorgeous orchid plant delivered while he’s away, and I’ll have killed it by the time he gets home (to be fair, he’s known me for seven years. He should know better than to give me plants. Not once has that ended well).

No, my natural inclinations are not towards the romantic, and that’s even before you factor in the commercial bloat that surrounds Valentines, with every shop breaking out in a rather nasty, frilly, pink and red rash and racking up the prices starting around January 2nd.

Not that I’m a cynic or anything.

Friends and breakfast food. Life is complete.

However, I did fall in love with Parks & Rec a while back, and the idea of Galentine’s Day – and Galentine’s cards – just makes me ridiculously happy. Special cards for celebrating friends? And breakfast food? Yes please! And while yes, all friends should be celebrated (furry ones included), I adore some of the Galentine’s Day cards, and I love the idea of telling my friends how wonderful they are, because that’s another thing I’m not terribly good at.

Galentine’s > Valentine’s

I think I can blame the softening of my attitude towards Valentines entirely on Leslie Knope, because it wasn’t long after this that I started to notice some clever little cards sneaking around. Despite my ban on Valentine’s, the SO got me a card that just read, ‘I like you quite a lot, actually’, which was admittedly not bad.

And then I came across a much better interpretation of the kittens and hearts card. Much better. It appears I am not alone in my grinch-ness.

This is right, yes?

So maybe it isn’t all ribbons and frills, and maybe Valentine’s isn’t such a smug couple fest as I always felt it was. But still – my advice would be to choose a quieter night for the meal out, do the flowers and the card at some other time, because surprises are more fun, and definitely wait on the chocolate until the 15th.  If I haven’t bought it all already.

Anyhow, I did have a point, and, getting to it in a roundabout way – happy Feb 14th to all of you, my lovely, wonderful readers! Whether you do the Valentine’s thing or not, I think you’re amazing, and I would share some of my half-price chocolate with you just because you’re so perfectly you. Because that is something worth celebrating.

Well, virtually, you know. Via t’internet, because otherwise we’d have to be right next to each other, and I’m not sure about that.

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  1. Completely agreed and well said, as ever. Like you, I am somewhat nonplussed by Valentines Day, I try to show my partner what she means to me with spoiling her more than once per year.

    And this is all I have to say about it:

    1. kimwatt says:

      Ha, I LOVE that! And they really are pretty creepy… ?

      I believe spontaneous spoiling is a much better display of affection than a hallmark-ordered one. Brownie points for you!

  2. Yes! Someone who agrees with me ? Me an the other half don’t bother with Valentines day. I hate crowded restaurants, and we both hate the inflation of prices. It’s too commercial and I think we should appreciate each other all year around, not just on the day the greetings card companies tell us too!
    The kittens and heart card amuses me ?

    1. kimwatt says:

      I definitely agree on appreciating each other all year – why does there need to be a hallmark day for that? Although, then our next cheap chocolate day would after Easter… ?

  3. annelise says:

    Completely agree. Especially re the chocolates. Oh, the kittens and hearts as well hehehe…

    1. kimwatt says:

      Chocolate, kittens and hearts ALL the year! ?

  4. datmama4 says:

    I’m still laughing at the kittens and hearts . . .

    Tim and I don’t really do anything for Valentine’s Day, and I like to think it’s because he actually treats me pretty well the rest of the year, so he has nothing to prove when it comes to February 14. Besides, my birthday is only nine days later, so I don’t want him to blow all his ideas on someone else’s holiday.

    1. kimwatt says:

      Being nice throughout the year absolutely trumps buying overpriced chocolates on one day. And now I’m feeling sorry for all the people born on Valentine’s Day. That must be rubbish! Happy birthday for the 23rd! (I promise not to send kittens and hearts…)

  5. Heidi Love says:

    Thanks for the smile. Sending you a big Galentine’s hug.

    1. kimwatt says:

      Aw – right back at you! Happy Galentine’s!

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